Does she like me? What are the signals?

About every guy who's frustrated when it comes to meeting women ends up asking "How can I find out if a girl likes me?"

The answer I will give to this question is not a set of indications that will allow you to know that a girl likes you by just noticing that she exhibits certain behavior patterns when she is around you.

The '5', '10', or '100' signs that she likes you

There have been many articles written that go over the "Top ten signs that she likes you" or "Five ways you'll know that she wants your ass". These articles usually include such wishful telltale signs such as:

1. She laughs at your jokes
2. She flips or adjusts her hair a lot
3. She touches you often
4. <insert more oft mentioned signs that she likes you here>

One point I'd like to make is that most of the so called "signs" that she likes you aren't definitive signs that she wants you, likes you, want's to be with you.. etc. The truth is, I haven't noticed any tell tale sign that a girl will give that will reliably indicate that a girl likes you.

Well, I take that back. If a girl sleeps with you, then she definitely likes you - or at least 95% of the time, it means she likes you.

If you're looking for a clear, never fail sign that a girl likes you...

If you're looking for a sign that a girl likes you that will never fail, works with any woman, that's a sign that you need to work on other things besides finding out if a girl likes you.

The thing is, when you get really good with women, when you really understand women - you'll know not to rely on technical signs of attraction. You'll also know that not all women show the same indications that they're interested with you.

I've been with women who at first would seem to have been utterly disgusted with my presence, only to later find out that they were completely infatuated with me. Additionally, there are people other than attractive women, that often show what are considered tell tale signs of interest around me. For instance, there's a guy I used to know that used to always touch people when he talked to them. Every time he talks to someone, he's always touching them on the arm from time to time to maintain their attention. And he's not gay, and he doesn't want to sleep with me. He was a common dork and that was just his manner of body language.

Most of the signs of attraction and the ways that guys have organized and implemented them in understanding represent a pseudoscience.

You've got a lot more to know, and then you'll know if she likes you

There's not a certain code or sign that will infallibly tell you that a girl likes you, but you can know if she likes you - you can.

Think about your friends, your family. How do you know that they like you? How do you know your friends like you? Do you use some kind of scientific method when you make friends in order to determine whether or not they like you?

Probably not.

Stop approaching women like it's a science. It's not a science - it's more like an art - it's humanity!

The fact is, relationships with friends, family, or the sexy ladies in your world shouldn't be approached in a technical or scientific manner. If you approach women or people in general in such a contrived or technical manner, you're going to come across as creepy or inhuman - weird. You're not Spock, you're Brad Pitt.

So you might know how to tell that your family and friends like you. And it's not important to know how you know that they like you, but that you know that you know how to know that they like you.

I'll give you once piece of advice on how to develop a needed "Sixth Sense" with women

I hope you know that if you're asking questions like "How can I tell if a girl likes me", it really means that you're going in the wrong direction as far as your relationships with women are concerned.

You don't need to know a measurable sign that women like you. You need to develop:

1. Your ability to make women like you (then they will of course like you)
2. Lack of care that women like you. Stop being concerned whether any one girl likes you (they'll tend to be more inclined to like you better)
3. A sense that you remove the last vestige of the thought that it matters more than anything in the world that women like you. Just stop being so needy - nothing will make women turn the other way than being needy.

Start being more attractive

Begin to enjoy life for life's sake. Don't make it your sole mission in life to become successful with women, or to win the heart of one particular girl.

LOVE life. Love every bit of it and you'll become the man that women and all people will begin to love. Women are attracted to men who have passion toward life and themselves. Women don't want spineless emotional vampires that act like parasites.

Don't be a parasite to women, drawing on them for your ego's vitality. That is weak.

Being in love with life, being enamored by life, being truly happy with oneself and your place in the universe will win you more women than anything you can do to your static physical appearance or any construed method to solely attract women.

The question is not, "How can I tell if she likes me?"

There is no question. Find purpose and happiness, then you will attract women - then you will never need to ask, "Does she like me."

She just will.

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