How to be totally cool and chill around women

It's no secret. Women (and most people) don't like being around guys who aren't chilled out. Nervous guys and guys who are uncomfortable with themselves generally make those around them feel uncomfortable.

And women have what is like a sixth sense that let's them know that a guy is nervous around them. Of course, thinking about that will probably make you even more nervous around women, won't it?

But we've got to remember that when we're nervous around chicks, we send out bad vibrations, and bad vibrations subconsciously tell women "this guy is not dating or mating material."

So how's it feel for you? Do you tremble inside when you're talking to a beautiful woman? Do you at times feel uncomfortable in your own skin when around beautiful babes? Do you even feel like you could at any minute soil yourself?

I used to feel terrified when approaching women or being alone with a hot woman. It made absolutely no sense now that I look back on it, but I eventually overcame my fear of approaching.

One thing that helped me overcome my social fears around women, and which incidently has allowed me to effortlessly exude an attitude of attractiveness around the ladies, is a simple exercise that I learned from an old book called The Master Key System by Charles Haanel.

Although I highly recommend you get the book, I'll tell you an abbreviated version of this method which has allowed me to remain calm, cool, collected, and confident - thus giving me a vibe that is very attractive around all women.

The method

Find a place in your home that is quiet. Sit down in a chair there. Sit erect - don't slouch or lounge - and totally relax all of your muscles. Quiet your mind.

(This may sound like airy fairy stuff, but if you do this every day, you're going to notice some great improvements in the way you feel and come across to women)

1. Now, as you're sitting quietly alone and you have relaxed every muscle and nerve, clear your mind by removing all thoughts from your consciousness.
2. Remove all thoughts of hatred, anger, worry, jealously, envy, sorrow, trouble, and disappointment of any kind.
3. Continue this for 15 to 30 minutes and strive to achieve mastery.

Now what's going to happen here is you're going to eventually feel very carefree. This is the type of attitude that is attractive to women.

What's important is removing all the thoughts of hatred, anger, worry, jealously, envy, sorrow, trouble, and disappointment. It's these thoughts that all lead to (or are born of) fear. Once you remove them, you won't have fear.

Do this for 15 to 30 minutes every day and this state of fearlessness and carefree attitude will start to become habit. You'll start to feel this way around women all of the time.

Women will start to notice something about you and as you move through life without these sabotaging feelings, you're going to begin to notice that the things you say around women are going to come out naturally.

In other words, you're going to remove all anxiety around women, and once that starts to happen, you're going to notice yourself saying all of the 'right things' automatically. You won't have to think of things to say to her ahead of time. You won't need to memorize patterns or routines. In other words, you'll be authentic, and that is another attractive trait you'll gain from this.

But it takes time, effort, and discipline. It's worth it though. This method, although simplified, has worked for me and has been incredibly beneficial in allowing me to enjoy my current relationships with women.

Good luck. And if you have any questions, don't hesitate to contact me.